How Mothers should Prepare their Daughters for a Healthy Sexual life in Marriage

The relationship between you and your daughter is very important and should be maintained from birth to adult-hood. To form a positive mother-daughter relationship you must be an example of:

• An outstanding believer (Practicing Christian),  
• Faithful wife,

• Self-controlled,

• Loving and forgiving,

•  Dignified modest dressing,

•  Ability to use kind words and language,

•  Godly and mature,

• Consistent,

• Sensitive and responsive to hurts,

• Strong and not easily provoked,

•   Respectful, consistent and fair,

•  An agent of change….This can go on and on.

Understanding Your roles as a Mother

  

1.   Nourisher : A mother is naturally a giver because of the mother-child connection in the womb. As a mother you are to promote, support and encourage good behaviors as your children grow. Mothers are to nurture and raise their children in the fear and admonition of God if she is to have a strong, stable and well nourished child.   

 2.Teach and train with godly and positive examples. You cannot train effectively without showing positive examples. Teach and train with discipline and clearly understandable instructions at the age for the child to grasp and can ask questions.

3.   Love: When you fail to express love to your daughter, someone is out there who will and is usually the wrong person. You have the obligation to show love to your daughter, whether the father lives at home or not.

4.   Be compassionate: A compassionate mother is forgiving without coercion. 1 Cor. 13:6.Consider what your daughter is going through in this world saturated with sex and evil.

5.   Show Godliness, this will help shape her life with godliness and morality

6.   Offer moral support, in order to maintain strong family values and each person must seek wisdom and the Holy Spirit (James 3:17).

7.   Emotional support: When stressful situations arise at home, the presence of a strong mother will play very important role in the life of a daughter who looks up to her.

8.   Tell your daughter that sex is good and allowed by God to be expressed only in marriage and not before or after. Let her know sex is not evil and shameful.

Make friend with her and show interest in her affairs mainly during adolescent years so that she can confide and not hide her problems from you.

9.   Ask specific questions to find what she knows about sex and marriage and from that point you chip in an advice from the word of God and morality.

Finally, rebellious children are most often seed of ungodliness and immorality. Show godly principles and commandments pertaining to the fear of God. (Exodus 20:1-11) as well as those pertaining to family and social life (Exodus 20:12-17).