How to Resolve the Common Problems of Marriage

                                                                  

When a man and a woman get married, they promise to love each other “for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part". In any relationship, mutual respect and love are the two important aspects that make a marriage work. Most often, the marriage vows that the couple makes are not fulfilled because of marital problems or marriage issues. These problems threaten the solidarity of the marriage.

What are the common problems? How do you solve these kinds of problems?

Here are some areas of conflict a married couple faces and simple solutions on how to solve them:

1. Extended Family or In-Laws

Different cultural backgrounds, differences in religion, beliefs and principles are some of the factors that a couple must learn to resolve. Another reason is the dissimilarity in understanding each other. Such factors can widen the gap between the in-laws and your spouse.

To bridge the gap, the couple must learn to pay attention and heed to the needs of the in-laws, leave behind negative feelings or resentments and to accept one's fault. At the onset of the problem, try to define your limits in a respectful manner. Always keep in mind not to make promises that you cannot keep. In most cases, the in-laws can adapt to these changes as well.

2. Money/Financial Matters

Money is the root of all evil. The couple must discuss financial concerns properly. The couple must work on a budget suited to their needs. Saving money for the future is important. Expenditures on clothing, food, education for the children and shelter are first considerations in making the budget.

Other expenses such as medical or health, recreation or leisure, utilities, electric bills, telephone bills, water bills and insurance should also be included in the budget. Couples should plan and decide on monetary issues together.

3. Household Chores

Division of labor in doing household chores is another important consideration. Paying bills, washing the dishes, mowing the lawn, laundry and cooking, going to the grocers are some of the chores that need to be attended to.

The couple must be alert on unprecedented events or circumstances that can upset the daily routine. Minor injuries and accidents, illnesses, natural calamities are some of the examples of conditions that can upset the couple’s daily routine. To prevent this, assign chores equally to prevent further conflict.

4. Unattended Needs

Resentments, grudges and feelings of loneliness are some of the needs that requires attention. Failure to meet these emotions and expectations will have a negative impact on the marriage. It is important for couples to address these kinds of problems. Mutual understanding and trust are vital for couples to deal and confront these problems.

Married life can have its ups and downs. Whenever these marriage issues occur, it challenges the foundation of the marriage. Couples who love, trust and support each other often find ways on how to deal with them. These marriage issues persist because they are meant to test you and your spouse. Act on issues that require immediate attention. Such decisions must be done together to have a successful marriage.