Good Counselling to Check Family and Marital Problems

                                           

Family problems can cause untold suffering and emotional problems. They can lead to depression, anxiety and even substance abuse. Family problems are often very complex so there is need for a good counselling in order to get better result. 

Marital and family conflicts often should make people to seek psychological or marriage counselling. However, people usually procrastinate, making it very difficult to achieve a beneficial outcome. Leveraging motivation by using immediacy in obtaining treatment is crucial to a good result.

Married partners can experience problems because of physical or mental health problems in either person, or in one of their children. 

Parent-child problems can also create turmoil. For these reasons, it can be helpful if your therapist is a psychologist; because psychologists can administer diagnostic tests which can get to the heart of any psychiatric or mental health problems.

It is also very important that the partners or family members should stay in therapy long enough to get a substantive benefit. Testing is considered part of an assessment- the first stage of counselling. During this stage the therapist is evaluating the current status of the problems. 

What are they? He evaluates communication patterns, built-in biases and stereotypes, the existence of psychiatric dysfunctions, problem-solving skills and the levels of empathy that are demonstrated by family members.

Communication and discipline problems between parents and their children are very common and can make marital problems even worse. Divorce and the creation of stepfamilies also create difficulties. Often, the couple itself is the problem because of poor communication, continuous conflict, alienation, sexual problems or even in-law problems.

Problems like these often lead to adjustment issues. Since the family relationships are at canter to the problem, it may be necessary to change their underlying dynamics. A family therapist often will provide marriage counselling or family therapy to address the issues of marital and parental adjustment failure as well as to help parents improve their parenting skills.

Sometimes there are multiple problems such as, depression in one family member, plus conflict in the marriage itself. The second stage of treatment is the goal-setting stage. At this stage, the counsellor and family members specify behavioural changes towards which to work. 

These can include increase in levels of demonstrated empathy, the use of negotiation techniques, the demonstration of positive reinforcement and appreciation and the more frequent use of forgiveness. 

The last stage of counselling is implementation. 

This stage includes the development of a plan of action to get the family members from where they are to where they WANT to be. Several counselling approaches may be necessary in these circumstances, including interpersonal and empathy training, cognitive modification and role playing and role reversal. 

The therapist may ask the clients to use diaries, logs, charts, graphs etc. to practice specific the new behavioural skills in their everyday lives.

Psychologists who provide family therapy or marriage counselling often have received specialized training in family counselling theory and in family and marriage therapy skills. When you contact a psychologist for family or marriage counselling, do not hesitate to ask about his/her training in marriage and family therapy techniques.